Listening

Sitting on the back deck listening. Visiting with a friend listening. Sitting in church listening. Driving down the road listening. Talking on the phone AND listening to the other person.

I try to help others by my listening - a good listener is a good friend. Sometimes saying nothing at all while listening is the best. Sometimes we are prodded to give an opinion, be careful what you say; someone who is pouring out their heart does not always want a comment, they just want a good listener.

I think I figured it all out: I know how to put my own concerns and opinions aside for a while and give people my undivided, heartfelt, gently compassionate, non-judging attention. I make them feel safe...and seen, like they are very important. Which they are! I love listening to people. I am totally fascinated and intrigued by what goes on inside of people's souls and minds. And my heart always goes out to their pain and suffering as well celebrate their triumphs and their joys. I enjoy listening and listening deeply. I can get inside of someone's experience and understand what they are going through and shower them with acceptance, with no effort at all. I have been told I am a good listener.