Letter to James

James was Todd's favorite hospice nurse; a nice guy, a friend, a spritual person who was at times misunderstood by those around him to include his family and his coworkers. Todd really enjoyed James' company; he enjoyed their conversations and their activities, picking fishing worms, listening to music and just plain hanging out on our front porch or back deck. I recently wrote a letter to James but I have not sent it out yet....I don't want him to think I am just 'babbling' on and on, I want him to know that he is a special person who is genuine and appreciated by me for all he did for and with Todd during his last month on this Earth.


James,

You have the qualities that I like in a man [or a woman]… you are Kind, Caring, Compassionate, Sympathetic, Spiritual, Friendly, Engaging, Quick, a Good Listener, a Critical Thinker, have a Positive Personality, Sweet, Thorough, Understanding, Patient, Loving, Honest, Trustworthy, have a Sense of Humor and so many more.

Evidence was abundant with all of these qualities when you were caring for Todd – it was such a relief to let someone as skilled as you - be by my side - caring for the love of my life. I will never forget how you demonstrated all of your skills with someone you knew would leave this world soon – you gracefully let him die with dignity. I was so glad you were here that fateful day; you made his passing so calming for me. Remembering the moment of death; the look on your face of concern and sadness, my feelings and tears -- are all wrapped up into a bubble that will never leave my mind. As I stroked Todd’s head, arms and chest and then whispered in his ear, ‘I will always love you honey, until we meet again’ …you patiently and lovingly waited for me to say my last goodbyes to my soul mate, my lover, my life. I will never forget helping you with Todd’s Earth body, readying him one last time for a trip into town. I will single you out and describe you to be one of the best nurses I have met. You are the epitome [a highly representative example of a type, class, or characteristic] of nursing.

You put up with my nervous jokes, innuendos and constant babbling. You are a person who genuinely loves your work and you do your work with such graceful aplomb.
Aplomb - confident poise: confidence, skill, and poise, especially in difficult or challenging circumstances

Keep up the good work, my friend.